The Devil wears Prada

29 Apr
2010


This post came to mind yes­ter­day while read­ing the story of 25-​year– old Laura Garza whose body was found after being miss­ing for over a year. She was the vic­tim of a sex­ual preda­tor while out par­ty­ing at a New York club. Her story as well as many oth­ers made me reflect on the dan­gers that women and men put them­selves into due to judg­ing a per­sons phys­i­cal appear­ance as to whether the indi­vid­ual is a threat or not.

I’m not speak­ing on the specifics of what hap­pened to Laura Garza, but in gen­eral there seems to be the think­ing that because a per­son looks safe that they are safe and that is just not always the case. Women some­times think that sex­ual preda­tors will be obvi­ous look­ing. Maybe scruffy, poor, dirty look­ing men that we were taught as chil­dren to stay away from.

Today, preda­tors are more clever than ever and live right among us. No longer lim­ited to the poor and une­d­u­cated some may actu­ally be suc­cess­ful, well-​dressed, and well-​spoken men who don’t stand out at all as being any dif­fer­ent from any­one else.

My point in this post is not to scare you, but as women and men in 2010 the lifestyle of going home or sleep­ing with strangers needs to be tem­pered with com­mon sense. Although in this soci­ety it is unheard of for any­one to abstain from such activ­ity doesn’t it make more sense to err on the side of cau­tion?

In the case of Laura Garza she lost her life. That may not hap­pen to all, but what about other long term effects like HIV? The spread of HIV is ram­pant even among those who seem less likely to con­tract it but it is some­thing to be taken into con­sid­er­a­tion. The Bible says that man sees with the eyes, but God sees the heart. So in the light of these threats we can­not trust our own eyes on deter­min­ing who is or isn’t safe.

Thanks for read­ing,

Literary Nobody

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Toya Bryant aka Literary Nobody is a Freelance Writer/Blogger who promotes positive thinking and actions within the community and the family. She also writes about the positives and negatives of technology, internet security and social media.

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  • md20737

    I love your com­mon sense posts. They are never preachy but always gets your point across.

  • http://www.literarynobody.com/ Literary Nobody

    Thank you so much for your pos­i­tive com­ment Md :)

  • http://yesterdayspoem.blogspot.com vizion­heiry

    I don’t under­stand the casual sex scene either. I don’t know why peo­ple feel com­fort­able swap­ping bod­ily flu­ids with folks they don’t have social secu­rity num­bers for. Get on the life insur­ance pol­icy first. #noma’am

  • http://www.literarynobody.com/ Literary Nobody

    Thank you for the com­ment Vizionheiry :) It amazes me that this still goes on espe­cially in a time when there is more infor­ma­tion out there about what can be con­tracted.

  • http://thebookishtype.blogspot.com Casey (The Bookish Type)

    Thanks for this great and very timely post. I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way.

  • http://thebookishtype.blogspot.com Casey (The Bookish Type)

    I really hope a lot of peo­ple read this. Thanks so much for writ­ing such a wise and timely post. I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way.

  • http://www.literarynobody.com/ Literary Nobody

    Thank you so much for the com­ment Casey :) I’m glad I’m not the only one too.

  • rochelle­spencer

    This is a good and sober­ing mes­sage. I think we’ve become so used to know­ing each other through tech­nol­ogy that we for­get about the dan­gers of not truly inter­act­ing with peo­ple and tak­ing the time to get to know them.

  • http://www.literarynobody.com/ Literary Nobody

    Thank you so much for your com­ment Rochelle. I com­pletely agree with you that we do get caught up in feel­ing like we “know” some­one. But the truth is we can’t truly know some­ones inner think­ing or motives in such a short period of time.

  • http://chapscorner.blogspot.com CHAPSCORNER

    You hit in on the head. Sometimes I wish I weren’t so trust­ing in peo­ple. I’m not wor­ried about a preda­tor, but there are other dan­gers that men face when being around peo­ple they barely know.

    Thanks for the eye opener

  • http://www.literarynobody.com/ Literary Nobody

    When I was writ­ing this I was def­i­nitely think­ing about how as women it is our nature to look for the good in oth­ers and be trust­ing. It’s nice to hear a males per­spec­tive on this issue because it really does effect every­one.

  • http://chapscorner.blogspot.com CHAPSCORNER

    You hit in on the head. Sometimes I wish I weren’t so trust­ing in peo­ple. I’m not wor­ried about a preda­tor, but there are other dan­gers that men face when being around peo­ple they barely know.

    Thanks for the eye opener

  • http://www.literarynobody.com/ Literary Nobody

    When I was writ­ing this I was def­i­nitely think­ing about how as women it is our nature to look for the good in oth­ers and be trust­ing. It’s nice to hear a males per­spec­tive on this issue because it really does effect every­one.



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