Knowing exactly who you are is underrated…

I was doing some blog search­ing this morn­ing and encoun­tered sev­eral blogs in which the author described them­selves as still try­ing to fig­ure out who they are. Many of us can relate to that. In fact, I had this dis­cus­sion with some friends over din­ner recently.

Many of us have spent a good major­ity of our lives try­ing to fig­ure out who we are. The only thing is in all that time many of us knew exactly who we were, we just didn’t want to accept it.

In my time of search­ing I was a Southwesterner who wanted to be from the East coast. I was a sin­gle per­son who wanted to be mar­ried. I was a short per­son who wanted to be tall. I was some­ones employee who wanted to be a writer. The real­ity is, I am still a Southwesterner, I am still sin­gle, I am still short, but I am no longer some­ones employee want­ing to be a writer.

Knowing who you are involves accept­ing the things that you can­not change. I’m not say­ing that I have stopped dream­ing but, I have stopped try­ing to find some loop­hole in the space time con­tin­uüm that would make it pos­si­ble for me to grow a few more inches well beyond the age of eigh­teen. Many of us have stopped wish­ing and started act­ing.

The things that were in my imme­di­ate power to change, I did. I wanted to be a writer so I did what was needed to become one. While my loca­tion and mar­i­tal sta­tus is the same in time these things may change. But, maybe they won’t. I have finally come to embrace what may be the unchange­able things about myself.

Many of us know exactly who we are and what space we occupy on this Earth. Before we got to this point, all of our wish­ful think­ing seemed to be lead­ing us to our ideal life. Some of us now know that our real­ity is our ideal. It’s who we are through and through. The com­po­nents that work together to com­prise us. So while “try­ing to find your­self” is pop­u­lar, know­ing exactly who you are is def­i­nitely under­rated.

Thank you for read­ing,